Today is National Best Friends Day It is a day to celebrate your best friend(s) and let them know what they mean to you.
I think the last time I used the term "best friend" was when I was in college. Now, I am blessed to have people in my life that I refer to as "close" friends instead of "best friends." My "best" friends are my "close" friends.
Whether I have known them for decades or days, they all add something to my life that if they were not here, they would be sorely missed. My "close" friends are small in number, in my opinion, that is as it should be. I don't try to amass close friendships the way people are seeking "likes" on Facebook. True friendships take more time to evolve and grow than Facebook would like us to believe. I have many "acquaintances", but few who I would consider to be "close friends."
My close friends don't pick my brain and then turn a knife in my back for their own benefit. They don't feign liking me one day, and then have nothing to do with me the next. My close friends aren't "yes" people to me or to anyone else. They care enough to not just tell me what I WANT to hear, but often will tell me what I need to hear, even if it is sometimes painful, as I do for them.
My close friends are friends whose motives I never question, I never question my trust for them. My close friendships just ARE. My communication with them is easy, natural, genuine, Those close friendships are sometimes painfully REAL. I am grateful for those friendships.
If I were to be asked to pinpoint when those close friendships evolved, in many instances I wouldn't be able to. Many of my closest friendships were unexpected, oftentimes on the surface they would appear to be "unlikely". To me those are some of my favorite and most cherished friendships.
"Unexpected friendships are the BEST ones."
I am grateful for my close friends, and I deeply love each and every one of them.
Close or best friends like dat are a rare thing.
ReplyDeleteI have a couple of girlfriends, one from since highschool, and one from college, who I hardly ever see...and we only write to each other a few times a year. When we are privileged to meet up with each other, its like we never had been apart. That to me is 'best friend' material:)
ReplyDeleteIn August I will get together with the friend from my highschool days and we have some outings already planned. It will be wonderful to spend extended time with her.
Friends that can be called close or best are like rare gems. The sparkle and beauty of them does not grow dim or fade.
I am glad you have some good close friends.
Here in 'bloggerland' I have met some wonderful people, and I think if I got to meet them the bond(s) would be strengthened.
Ohhhh I have a TON who "think" they are my friends hehehe............I am the kind that when people meet me they usually gravitate to me, it has always been that way.....I am super selective about who I allow in.....and...if I have, and I find out I was screwed......that's it...I'm done
DeleteMy human says I am her best friend. And I guess I am, because I'm the only friend she travels with!
ReplyDeleteI like the way you made a distinction to have close friends instead of a best friend. I've mused to myself about the whole "best friend" thing. I like the idea of close friends.
ReplyDeleteAlso, it does my heart good to see the friendship between your two fur kids. Thanks for cheering up my day!
Awww you are a doll, thank YOU for cheering up MINE!! (here if you need me!)
DeleteTo my new friend, Caren, I hope you have a great day and a nice weekend.
ReplyDeleteYOU are the sweetest!! THANK YOU!! Hoping you do as well!!!
DeleteI have close friends in various parts of my life: work, hobbies, travel...and blogging!
ReplyDeleteI would say that we all do (wink)
DeleteI agree with you. When we are adult we have close friends. Best friend is more for teenagers...
ReplyDeleteHave a nice week end
Natacha
Awww, I linked this post to Feline Friday.
ReplyDeleteHave a purrfect and woof woof day and weekend. My best to your mom. ♥♥♥
I had quite a few best friends growing up but my close friend group has shrunk quite a bit as an adult but I agree I think that is best.
ReplyDeletexoxo,
Bell Fur Zoo Mama
What a lovely post! Our mommy is going to a movie today with one of her close friends. As for us, we're each others bestest friends.
ReplyDeleteHaving friends is the best!
ReplyDeleteGreat post! I met my "bestie" on the very first day of college at orientation. We don't see each other all the time, but when we do, it's like no time has passed.
ReplyDeleteYou two are purrfect together Cody! We agree and really enjoyed your post!!!
ReplyDeleteHappy Best Friends Day! A best friend accepts you for who you are.
ReplyDeleteYou two are the cutest best friends.
ReplyDeleteFriends are the best! We need all types of friends to keep us balanced, don't we!
ReplyDeleteIt's so important to have close friends. My best friend is my sister.
ReplyDeleteGreat post! I love it Caren! And I bet Cody and Dakota are Best and Close furrends too!
ReplyDeletePurrs
Marv (and Barb)
I'm not sure if my best friend is my Mom or my Dad. Since it's "Best Friends" day (plural) I think it's perfect that they both get that title.
ReplyDeleteYou two are the perfect best friends, Cody and Dakota!
ReplyDeleteWe totally agree with you, Caren. We, too, are blessed with so many close friends. :)
We are on the same page here! This post reminds me of a favorite quote from Goethe:
ReplyDelete"To know someone here or there with whom you can feel there is understanding in spite of distances or thoughts expressed -- That can make life a garden."
xxoo
Nice post on friendship! We are lucky to have fur and non-fur friends!
ReplyDeleteTW could have written this post but is glad that you did. She has only one really close friend and that friend is currently battling cancer. She been in and out of the hospital and is back in. We are not religious but we're praying hard for her. She'll have no one if "Aunt Pauline" doesn't make it.
ReplyDeleteMama said we are her best furriends.
ReplyDeleteEmma and Buster
Well Cody, we're a bit late, but we are grateful to be ya'll's furiends. And we got our canvas and mommy luvs it so much she cried fur hours. Fanks again fur the oppurrtunity to win. Big hugs
ReplyDeleteLuv ya'
Dezi and Raena
Best Friends Day, eh? I did not know. Your post was genuine and touched my heart. Hope you consider me a "close" friend though we don't yatter that much I am always here for you and the clan.
ReplyDeleteJean